DISCLOSING ABUSE
Handling a Disclosure
When disclosure does happen, it is often a process, not a single event. For example, an individual may first provide hints about an assault; if the response is supportive, then more information may be shared. Over time, they may fully disclose the details of the event(s). That being said, if a child starts to talk about their abuse, here are some things to keep in mind:
DO:
- Remain calm
- Believe the child
- Allow the child space to talk
- Show interest and concern
- Reassure and support the child’s feelings
- Take action. REPORT.
DON’T:
- Panic or overreact
- Press the child to talk
- Promise anything you can’t control
- Confront the offender
- Blame or minimize the child’s feelings
- Overwhelm the child with questions
It is imperative that we err on the side of believing the child and making a report so that the professionals can do their jobs and the child can get any help that they need.
Obstacles to Disclosure
If a child you know did not disclose their abuse right away, it may be difficult for you to understand why. It is not uncommon for children to delay disclosing or to tell only part of what happened. Here are some reasons why children might not talk about their abuse right away: